Stress Management

Stress is a commonly used word nowadays, from working people to non-working, and from post-graduates to school-going kids.

Before elaborating on this word, let us understand what stress is – ‘Stress is a natural feeling of not being able to cope with specific demands and events that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or nervous.’

Now, let us understand why anyone gets stressed. It is a natural reaction to pressure caused by several factors :

  • Inability to accept failure or uncertainty;
  • Negative self-talk;
  • Unrealistic expectations;
  • Unpreparedness;
  • Life transitions;
  • Competitiveness;
  • Comparisons with others;
  • Family issues;
  • Relationship difficulties.

Whenever anyone gets stressed, there are some unwanted symptoms :

  • Rapid heartbeat;
  • Headache;
  • Stiff neck;
  • Tight shoulders;
  • Backache;
  • Rapid breathing;
  • Sweating and sweaty palms;
  • Upset stomach, nausea, or diarrhea;
  • Sleep trouble;
  • Weakening of the immune system;
  • Negative/self-critical thinking; 
  • Confusion; 
  • Racing thoughts; 
  • Going blank;
  • Difficulties with problem-solving.

There are many myths about stress. The most common one is that it is not at all good; however, the facts are :

  • It is not at all bad;
  • It is a strong incentive for individuals to do their best;
  • It poses a challenge for individual achievement;
  • It can be positive, helping you to be motivated and focused;
  • Low levels of stress are manageable, in fact, necessary & normal.

If there is an issue, then there will be a solution. 

Here are some necessary STEPS to overcome stress :

  • Identifying stress factors;
  • Identify stress relievers;
  • Manage your Time;
  • Relax;
  • Follow routine;
  • Ask for help;
  • Practice breathing techniques;
  • Exercise.

There is a key for every lock; just make an effort to search for that key…✍️

Stress Management Coach

The Story of Old man and the Ship ( with Marathi translation )

Once, an engine of the big ship failed. The ship owners and workers tried many attempts to understand and resolve the issue, but none of them could figure it out.

As suggested by one worker, Owner called a local man who had the experience of fixing ships. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work.

Shipowner and workers, watching this man, hoped he would know what to do. He inspected the engine from top to bottom carefully.

After proper analysis, the man reached into his bag and pulled out a big hammer. He again analyzed the ship and then tapped with his hammer. Instantly, the engine came to life. He carefully put his hammer away and handed a bill of Rs. 10,000/- to ship owners.

What?!” the owners exclaimed.

You hardly did anything!” and requested an itemized bill.

The man gave a bill that read:

Tapping with a hammer………………….. Rs. 100.00
Knowing where to tap…………………….. Rs. 9,900.00

The ship owners discussed and realized the value of the expertise of that man. They thanked him and paid his full bill.

Moral of the story:

Effort is essential, but knowing where to make an effort makes all the difference!

Likewise, all Professionals/Consultants have the knowledge and skills to know where to put efforts for desired results.

They use the expertise that helps clients to understand issues with a new perspective and solve them. It takes a lot of time, patience, and hard work to develop that expertise. That expertise helps them to make proper decisions, make efforts for their clients to get desired results.


एकदा एक जहाज बंदरावर बंद पडले. जहाजच्या मालकाने अनेक प्रयत्न केले, तसेच , त्या जहाजावरील लोकांनी ही सर्व प्रयत्न करून बघितले. पण काही केल्याने जहाज चालू नाही झाले.

शेवटी एका वयस्कर जाणकार व्यक्तीला बोलावण्यात आले , त्यांना जहाजांच्या संदर्भात चांगला अनुभव होता. येताना त्यांनी एक मोठी tool bag स्वतः बरोबर आणली होती. जहाजेच्या मालकाला व त्याच्या मित्रांना वाटले की ह्या माणसाकडून काही जहाज चालू होणे शक्य नाही , पण प्रयत्न करून बघण्यात काय हरकत , म्हणून ते बघू लागले की तो वयस्कर व्यक्ती काय करतोय ते. त्या वयस्कर व्यक्ती ने जहाजाचे चांगले निरीक्षण केले.

निरीक्षण झाल्यानंतर त्या व्यक्तीने आपल्या tool box मधून एक हातोडा बाहेर काढला. जहाजाचे परत निरीक्षण केले व एके ठिकाणी तो हातोडा मारला, त्याचक्षणी ते जहाज चालू झाले. सर्वांना आश्चर्य वाटले व आनंद ही झाला.

जहाजाचा मालकाने त्या व्यक्तीस त्याच्या फी बद्दल विचारले असता , त्यांनी रु 10, 000/- सांगितले. हे ऐकून मालकास आश्चर्य वाटले व विस्तृत bill मागितले.

त्या वयस्कर व्यक्तीने बिल दिले , ते असे

हातोडा मारणे – रु 100
तो योग्य ठिकाणी मारणे – रु 9900

हे वाचून, जहाजेच्या मालकांनी आपसात विचारविनिमय करून , त्या वयस्कर माणसाच्या ज्ञानाचे मोल जाणले. त्यांनी, लगेच आपल्या cashier करवी त्या वयस्कर व्यक्तीस रु 10,000/- पोच केले व त्याचे धन्यवाद ही मानले.

ह्या गोष्टी प्रमाणेच सगळे Professionals / Consultants सुद्धा खूप अभ्यास व अनुभव घेऊन expertise मिळवतात. तो अनुभव व अभ्यास मिळवण्यासाठी ते सतत शिकत असतात व त्या शिक्षणासाठी त्यांना अमाप वेळ व मेहनत घ्यावी लागते. त्याच expertise मुळे ते योग्य ठिकाणी, योग्य वेळी , योग्य निर्णय घेतात व त्याचा उपयोग clients साठी करतात.