Acceptance in human psychology is a person’s assent to the reality of a situation, recognizing a process or condition (often a negative or uncomfortable situation) without attempting to change it or protest it.
In any unexpected situation, we go through many thoughts and keep on asking questions such as:
- What do I have right now?
- What am I experiencing?
- Why it is happening to me?
- Why me?
It further gives to series of unwanted thoughts leading to fear and insecurity. It further instills a habit of worrying.
There is a beautiful pictorial presentation on how one should respond to a situation rather than worrying.
Acceptance means, “surrender to the Now.”
It is a positive response to anything occurring in any moment of life.
To simplify, acceptance means allowing; allowing unwanted private experiences (thoughts, feelings, and urges) to come and go without struggling with them.
One can only practice Acceptance when there is Self-acceptance.
It is being satisfied with one’s current self. It is an agreement with oneself to appreciate, validate, and support the self as it is, despite deficiencies and negative past behavior.
Many have trouble accepting themselves because of guilt, trauma, or a perceived lack of motivation. To accept self means to no longer reject self.
Self-rejection is bad for health. There are certain negative behaviors associated with it:
- They feel isolated and lonely and excluded;
- They lack healthy eating habits;
- They tend to spend sedentary lifestyle rather than exercise;
- They do not sleep well.
People with self-rejection desire to be accepted among friends as part of that group, and act upon that desire through social pressure. A desire to be accepted by others determines their openness towards unwanted behaviors like smoking, drinking, swearing, and more. They tend to impress others than expressing themselves. It further hampers their self-identity.
The key to a happy and prosperous life is to accept self, accepting what is happening in life with a positive attitude.
- Practice self-acceptance;
- Accept the situation as it is;
- Look for mentor / coach who can help you to analyze, understand, and accept.